Monday Mom: Self Worth


The messages are quick and harsh these days. No one beats around the bush anymore. Ad companies tell you it’s bad to look the way you do-whatever that is or use the wrong phone or have anything but the absolute latest gadgets and fashions. And you must have a thigh gap, or not. Eat gluten free, eat vegan, eat more bacon and drink vinegar. Use Twitter, not Facebook and we won’t even get started on the music scene.

As parents, we can shelter and keep our kids from people who curse or boys who wear makeup, pop culture and the entertainment industry, offering “one hour a day of technology”. But really, our goal should be training our children in the truth. Reassuring them that their worth is not in what they have or what they look like from day to day. And realistically, who can even keep up?
Letting our kids know they are perfect the way they are and their character and heart is what matter most is our primary job.

Speak truth to your children daily. Build them up with words of encouragement and scripture to back it up. I’m not talking about empty praises that flow like soccer trophies from desperate coaches. True words of edification and love for your children.

A tough lesson I’ve had to learn is to think very hard before I speak. I run phrases through my head and imagine how they can be misconstrued or misunderstood. Everything I want to say to my kids must be tempered with love and it must be truth. Often as parents wanting our kids to become something in particular, we pepper our language with things we HOPE to be true someday.

I often think of what I would love to hear someone say to me, and say that.

What 2 Things can you say to your kids today to build them up in truth?

1. _________________________________________________________
2. _________________________________________________________

Read out loud:

Psalm 42:5 New Living Translation (NLT)
5 Why am I discouraged?
Why is my heart so sad?
I will put my hope in God!
I will praise him again—
my Savior and my God.


God, let me speak only truth, in love to my children. Let them see that who they are is enough without all the trappings society tells them are necessary. Help me to live in this way also not preaching that “the world” is bad, but that they are valuable, without anything added. Guard my tongue and give me wisdom to only speak encouragement.

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